Monday, October 18, 2010
Building Quality Relationships with your kids
It is important to create a positive relationship with your children. This starts with understanding their strengths and motivation. This is also having a clear understanding of their challenges and how to use their strengths to conquer those challenges. Often parent's unknowingly place many of their own expectations and frustrations on to their children which creates unhealthy cycles. Children are an extension of their parents, so it is vital to establish a solid foundation. This includes providing structure and consistency for your child. It is a parents responsibility to guide their child, not be their friend. A child needs to know that there will always be consequences for their actions and that positive choices produce positive consequences and negative choices produce negative consequences. If a child is not being taught to be responsible for their actions, they are destine to have negative consequences that will be life long. It is not about control but your children being able to make choices that will help them be successful in all that they do.
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This is very true that parents need to focus more on children's strengths. For many this will be very challenging. Many of us were born in an era where we tell and dont listen. When we always tell we deprive children of the connection between their choices and the outcomes. Many of us were raised this way.
A great book to help parents and children discover, develop and use their strengths is a book by Jennifer Fox, Knowing your child's strengths.
So true. Because as a society we choose to focus on the negatives in life. Very little we do is strength based. But our thoughts and perceptions are simply a reflection of our state of mind.
Why is it so hard for us to Forgive? Why must we create levels and not simply love our brothers and sisters as an extension of ourselves?
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