Fear Made Real

Every day I see people who present as strong and sure, myself included only to be swallowed at some point and time by fear. Sometimes its fear of what we don't have, or what we do have and think someone is going to take. Its fear of success and fear of failure, all brought on by an illusion of separation. Think about this, if there were no levels and we understood that what we do to the least of these, we also do unto ourselves, how much better the world would be.

Fogiveness and Love

Why is it so difficult for us to forgive one another? This is one of our major challenges. People talk about being Christians and being more Godly yet we hold grudges but state we are loving. We cannot be loving and hateful at the same time. No matter what people say or do to us, this is our opportunity to love them and forgive them. This is what it means to be Gods child. This is how we heal our hearts and minds and this is how we break these cycles of negativity. There is no one to blame, just make an effort to be more loving and less judgmental. You are love, everything else is an illusion.

Building Quality Relationships with your kids

It is important to create a positive relationship with your children. This starts with understanding their strengths and motivation. This is also having a clear understanding of their challenges and how to use their strengths to conquer those challenges. Often parent's unknowingly place many of their own expectations and frustrations on to their children which creates unhealthy cycles. Children are an extension of their parents, so it is vital to establish a solid foundation. This includes providing structure and consistency for your child. It is a parents responsibility to guide their child, not be their friend. A child needs to know that there will always be consequences for their actions and that positive choices produce positive consequences and negative choices produce negative consequences. If a child is not being taught to be responsible for their actions, they are destine to have negative consequences that will be life long. It is not about control but your children being able to make choices that will help them be successful in all that they do.

Purpose of the book/Dialogue

I am glad that there has been some dialogue created about the book and where we are in our relationships. This dialogue has to continue first and foremost within ourselves, assessing what we want and need in our relationships and finding out how to provide those things for ourselves. If we learn to articulate what we want from our relationships, we ourselves have a clear understanding and those around us know what we need. When we have an idea of how to provide those things for ourselves we can share that with our partners.

I had the pleasure of having some dynamic conversations over the past couple of days from the book and I am glad that people are taking a closer look at their lives and the changes that they would like to see. I told some young ladies the other day, there will always be negative people and situations, the question is what do you do when you are presented with the opportunity to respond to these situations and people. It is not what life presents to you, it is how you respond.

No matter how good our relationships are, we need to understand that developing relationships is a process, and that process begins internally