This is dialogue about my book Finicky Cats and Territorial Dogs and the state of relationships today. This is about building healthier relationships through mutual respect and shared communication.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
No matter how good our relationships are, we need to understand that developing relationships is a process, and that process begins internally
11 comments:
Leah Zachery
said...
I loved your new book!! It's one of those books you can't just read once, you're going to WANT to read it over and over. Great read!!
The book was very enlightening! I really liked it because I try to live my life based on truths, and accepting things as they are no matter how hard that is. I liked the part about communication. Clarity as a purpose of communication. We often communicate for various other reasons that are not helpful to the relationship. "Assume nothing and discuss everything," was a favorite quote. I am alwas being told to quit assuming and just ask. That has been a problem for me in my relationship. I will read the book again and again!
I believe that people are in our lives to give us a boost when have become comfortable with where we are. Get us out of our comfort zone. It is not that what we did yesterday is bad, it may not be relevant for today. That is living, learning and growing.
I really liked the book. It is definitely one to be pasted and told about to others. Relationships are on going and ever changing. We change and evolve with our environment and people around us. Ultimately, if we dont have self together, we will never discover our true meaning of being or life.
A good start is being true to your self. not following into old traditions or molding your self from generations past. "parents/guardians" nurture us from infant on, but most fail to realize that we dont raise our children to be like us, but to be better than we are, to be their own person. We are to give them nurture, guidance, boundaries, love and the Word of God. They will naturally experience the world in time. How we raise them will determine how they view the world. Hopefully not with "eyes wide shut" The stages that are most vital to a child is when they are determining their ID. what we put into them at that time will determine theeir paths.
Good points and so true, the way many of our parents relate or related to us has a profound impacton how we relate to ourselves and others. My parents created a high level of structure and consistency for me. along with a level of accountability and responsibility, which is a standard I hold myself to every moment of every day.
I had just received an e mail from a young lady that read the book and she talked about fear and the power it often exerts over us in the context of relationships. She discussed how enormous breakthroughs could have been so much better, but fear kept her back. That is what this is about, understanding what hold us back and moving it out of our way. I will try and get her to share her thoughts.
11 comments:
I loved your new book!! It's one of those books you can't just read once, you're going to WANT to read it over and over. Great read!!
The book was very enlightening! I really liked it because I try to live my life based on truths, and accepting things as they are no matter how hard that is. I liked the part about communication. Clarity as a purpose of communication. We often communicate for various other reasons that are not helpful to the relationship. "Assume nothing and discuss everything," was a favorite quote. I am alwas being told to quit assuming and just ask. That has been a problem for me in my relationship. I will read the book again and again!
I believe that people are in our lives to give us a boost when have become comfortable with where we are. Get us out of our comfort zone. It is not that what we did yesterday is bad, it may not be relevant for today. That is living, learning and growing.
I really liked the book. It is definitely one to be pasted and told about to others. Relationships are on going and ever changing. We change and evolve with our environment and people around us. Ultimately, if we dont have self together, we will never discover our true meaning of being or life.
very well said, we must remember that change is always happening and how we respond to that change within ourselves is vital
understand that past experiences can be a catalyst or burden for future relationships. No matter, the past cannot be changed but it can change you
I am looking forward to reading this book and sharing with friends and co-workers!
A good start is being true to your self. not following into old traditions or molding your self from generations past. "parents/guardians" nurture us from infant on, but most fail to realize that we dont raise our children to be like us, but to be better than we are, to be their own person. We are to give them nurture, guidance, boundaries, love and the Word of God. They will naturally experience the world in time. How we raise them will determine how they view the world. Hopefully not with "eyes wide shut" The stages that are most vital to a child is when they are determining their ID. what we put into them at that time will determine theeir paths.
Good points and so true, the way many of our parents relate or related to us has a profound impacton how we relate to ourselves and others. My parents created a high level of structure and consistency for me. along with a level of accountability and responsibility, which is a standard I hold myself to every moment of every day.
I had just received an e mail from a young lady that read the book and she talked about fear and the power it often exerts over us in the context of relationships. She discussed how enormous breakthroughs could have been so much better, but fear kept her back. That is what this is about, understanding what hold us back and moving it out of our way. I will try and get her to share her thoughts.
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